student unrest

This topic has been set in my mind for a long time and everytime I see a student stressed ,, I feel very heavy and disturbed , my own child is a typical example for a stressed child , it is so tough to manage school and other coaching classes , in today's world one cannot remain without these classes as you donot know whether you are doing the right things without them , and you always donot want to be the odd ones out , even if you want to be one , your children don't let you be one

this is the case with my son , he goes from school to IIT classes , the school is so lovely , it is an off pressure school in all grounds ,they donot victimise the children even if they are defaulters , it is a caring and a practical institution whatever said and done , but yet children always want to excel in everything , they donot realise the fact that it is not possible always , I hear this complaint from most of my friends that children get into this negative syndrome , when they are not able to balance time and it is so tough in reality , I keep telling my son that is not always possible to excel in everything as you are not doing only one thing for you to do so , it is better to take things as they are and move on , life is so hard for children in the XI and XII as their future is being decided up here considering various factors ,the school is also so competitive , if you lose three marks in a subject there are five more above you in the hierarchy , it is okay , life has to move on , never could we be on top of the list nor it is possible always , I keep sharing this thought with my son as the words repetitively said will have a better impact in his mind I suppose , whenI say that he has not prepared well for his test , he gets upset whereas when he says that he must have prepared well I should become a passive listener , we have to be patient after all they are worried about their betterment and not getting into any vices which we hear and read from tv and news papers , it is a blessing to have children who are hardworking and sincere but the worry is the stress levels should not prove a detriment to their performances and skills , I pray God for all children of this age , especially for the children I interact with , life is too hard and stressful for them than it is for us , we should learn to create a positive atmosphere for them at home, even if you are not a good teacher of their subjects , sit by their side with a cup of complan to encourage them , a word of encouragement plays a big miracle in their minds , be an encouraging parent for a teen ager than being a fault finding parent