today was too hectic after my FIL's ceremony , do we have to undergo this fatigue to reciprocate our love for a person , I always used to deeply think , I have concluded on one point, I cannot enforce my ideas and ideals on the past generation, but I have seriously firmed up on one issue , which is not to make my children perform any ritual after I die , nothing is sudden in our lives , everything is predetermined and by saying this I am not creating any bad omen as this topic of discussion always has spread bad waves at home , but believe me , I have been seriously thinking on this , our relationship wtih our children is UNCONDITIONAL , and I feel that we should never make them suffer for our sake , It is our duty to give them the best and remain without expecting anything in return , bringing up children is not a barter trade , and we need not fix up a feeling that they should take care of us in future , let them have their own space , make them realise that they can lean on you when they are in a problem , give them the best , love them the most , don't tell them that " I did so much for you, You should definitely do this"
instead talk to them in a way that they should be spontaneous in showering affection on you
Iam not trying to impose or influence any one on my thought, this has been my contemplation , happy that I was able to pen after a lo..........ng ...............tiring day
