dealing with people

I think I should consider myself to be the worst hit by bad moods of people all the time , I have seen the worst of behaviour from all types of people , especially relatives , life sometimes becomes so complicated with different moods and especially the weird behaviour, one is too sensitive, while other is too complicated , while the third is with a serious complex, fourth is with high ego, fifth is with indifferent attitude,sixth is a sharp tongue , seventh is morose and pessimistic, eighth is

with a hell bent attitude to hurt others , ninth is too big for his own shoes , while the tenth is the sum of all these complications , believe me I have to face all these kinds whenever there is a family get together or a function which falls almost every other week , I am just fed up and tired and want to run away from here , one should remain always SILEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEENNNNNNNNNNNNT

to keep up with the good relationship with all the people around . Is it worth the effort ? many times I wonder , but always the answer is YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS , because we cant live without people for all obvious reasons , I have learnt to tide over all these people , and I many times feel that people who are double our age are not even with half our maturity levels

love for things than people

Things are to be used and people are to be loved,

But the problem in todays world is that,
People are used and things are loved…

I will just explain this with a short story

While a man was polishing his new car, his 4 yr old son picked stone & scratched lines on the side of the car.

In anger, the man took the child’s hand & hit it many times, not realizing he was using a wrench.

At the hospital, the child lost all his fingers due to multiple fractures. When the child saw his father….
with painful eyes he asked

‘Dad when will my fingers grow back?’

Man was so hurt and speechless. He went back to car and kicked it a lot of times.
Devastated by his own actions…… sitting in front of that car he looked at the scratches,
child had written ‘LOVE YOU DAD’.
The man was full of repentance and he could not revive from the shock

Anger and Love have no limits, Choose the latter to have a beautiful & lovely life ….

Love is unconditional and priceless, We need to respect our relations and people around us…

acceptance

Of late , I hear various instances from various friends regarding the behaviour of children especially in adolescence dealing with a teen ager is not a joke , they waste time watching tv , reading books , when we say they feel bad and start fighting , any food cooked always ends up in a topic for contradiction and controversy , it is not only me , most of my friends face the same problem , my son is a perfectionist when it comes to studies , but I have started wondering why should he lose so much of temper with all at home for trivial issues , every day I discuss this issue with my husband ( most of the times he is not available in town) the best way according to him is to JUST IGNORE as it is a passing phase , my daughter and my son cannot see eye to eye even on a single issue but they are so united when they have to fight !!! , fighting for tv channel , place in the sofa , for food to be served first for every issue that will appear in front of them , though it is sometimes fun , sometimes it really gets on your nerves , when you have old people around you always asking questions it becomes all the more tough to balance , I feel we should keep the best solution for all these probs in front of us is ACCEPTANCE , accept anything that comes in your way , be patient to deal with all types of behaviour , requires a lot of effort , am sure home will be more harmonious

bad weather

we call a day bad if everything goes bad , but sometimes even if the day is good my friend calls it bad , it is quite complicated to deal with such people ,what do we do , either listen to their pessimism or switch youself off , i have always been unsuccessful in not responding , i listen carry the bad mood and travel the day with it , once I read a small story from a book . It titled Its all an intelligent behaviour, title was so tempting that I forced myself to read though I ran out of time

It talks about a man with two wives and eight children , he hardly had any money to feed the children and educate them , he was so religious that he always used to call for God whenever he was hungry , and felt a little satisfied and little hunger free , his wives used to abuse him for being useless and they called him unproductive, One day he was so dejected , was lying down under a tree observing his children play . His youngest daughter was carrying a small spoon full of water to do some cooking with her little toys ( all spoilt) she walked so slow to reach the small bowl that she had , without spilling and really took forward and reached her bowl successfully she was extremely happy , the man watching this felt that he was pushed by someforce , he felt that the bowl the child reached was their lives , the water the child carried with trial is the tribulations he has to face to bring up the children and he then realised calling out for help to God without effort is going to be useless unless you take an effort I was moved by this small story forwarded to the pessimistic friend of mine , she said it is useless reading such short bites and it will not better her up any way . A week passed on , she stopped calling me , never responded to any of my phone calls , I felt quite bad and I though that I had invaded in her privacy and have been too loud in my thinking , but to my surprise she visited me the ninth day carrying a book

called "Banish your Blues" which talks about behaviours related with small stories with biblical references , I was really moved by her gesture and I asked her what happened suddenly , she said ,your story didnot impress me , but the thought of reading a book while upset sank in my mind that I sat with the book I have given you right now, made me really change and I have learnt to accept everything that comes my way

What I feel is , when you feel that you can be vocal about a thing to a friend or a person close to you go ahead and don'tstop yourself , for they may not look at it at the same perspective , but will view it differntly might help them to better up

cheers

obsession

I just want to share this experience when I saw my son's results on the notice board in school

all the parents were busy and excited to watch their wards' scores, and a lady who is quite known to me was commenting that , this boy doesn't deserve a A1 this girl is better off than this boy

my son was sick during half yearly that's why he lost on his consistency scores . I thought for a moment , it is better not to be aloud on our thinking on certain occasions , we can worry about why our child has lesser scores than criticising other children who have better scores , children by and large inherit our qualities and behaviour and I totally appreciate the fact that our behaviour cannot be ideal all the times but we can be a little modest while in public . The root cause for this behaviour is that the mom talked about is obsessed about her child topping the class and having better scores , all of us want the same to happen but we should definitely realise the child's potential , acceptance of others' success will help us to behave better and lessen the stress on our own children , academic excellence alone doesn't measure the intelligence of a person , there is much more than this , let the children be stress free , I only pray that the children should not take stress too much to become more jealous , they should realise that they should be competitive and not envious

moods of people

one often wonders why we have to face others' moods , i think mostly it is the women who have to face moods , it is really painful and bitter to be pleasing others , I sometimes wonder why the hell we need to , but the feeling is momentary , it is better not to lose your cool when some one is off mood , stop relating yourself to the situation and try to be calm , when there is silence, it speaks more harmony , children too ,when they show tantrums instead of reacting , be calm it really helps

this is out of my experience